In no particular order these movies are fun movies for multiple reasons. First and foremost I believe a real man can enjoy a romantic comedy and these are some of the best ones. Second these movies contain men that women are atracted to and have characteristics that Pick up Artists can learn to model themselves after. A lot of these movies will end up being a pua Review so watch them and be prepared.
1. Made of Honor
2. Ghost's of girlfriends past
3. How to lose a guy in ten Days
4. Hitch
5. Failure to Launch
6. The wedding Planner
7. Just Friends
8. the proposal
These will be added to so look out more to come.
Monday, August 30, 2010
Monday, August 23, 2010
Personal philosophy
In my studies of this field I've come to one inevitable conclusion. I have not heard it before, but I am not going to delude myself into thinking I was the first to think of it. With that said here is my personal philosophy.
It is a Pick up artists job, to create moments. It is the pick up artists job to create the fantasy the woman has always dreamed of.
It is the pick up artists job to give the experience of a lifetime. To have them talking about it to there friends the next morning.
And by creating these moments. And ensuring these experiences. We get to have them as well. So not only should we leave people a little better than we found them. We should leave them a little better than when they found us.
That is what I teach.
A perfect example comes from one of my favorite movies, Hitch.
Before his date with Eva Mendes, Will Smith does his research. He finds out she had a relative come through Ellis Island so he has his friend find the page with her relatives name on it. The plan was to build this experience for her that no other man would do. Or even think of. We can learn from this two things. ONE- Build for her an experience that she would have with no other guy. TWO- Ive said it before and I will say it again. HAVE A PLAN!
Just thought I would put these thoughts out there.
(Note: VERY SIMPLY PUT. Every woman wants her own love story. Its our goal to give it to them. )
Richard Heart
It is a Pick up artists job, to create moments. It is the pick up artists job to create the fantasy the woman has always dreamed of.
It is the pick up artists job to give the experience of a lifetime. To have them talking about it to there friends the next morning.
And by creating these moments. And ensuring these experiences. We get to have them as well. So not only should we leave people a little better than we found them. We should leave them a little better than when they found us.
That is what I teach.
A perfect example comes from one of my favorite movies, Hitch.
Before his date with Eva Mendes, Will Smith does his research. He finds out she had a relative come through Ellis Island so he has his friend find the page with her relatives name on it. The plan was to build this experience for her that no other man would do. Or even think of. We can learn from this two things. ONE- Build for her an experience that she would have with no other guy. TWO- Ive said it before and I will say it again. HAVE A PLAN!
Just thought I would put these thoughts out there.
(Note: VERY SIMPLY PUT. Every woman wants her own love story. Its our goal to give it to them. )
Richard Heart
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Ghost's of Girlfriends Past
I just want to say that I will be doing a review of this movie very soon. It is one of my favorites for multiple reasons. So if you haven't seen it. Watch it. And then come back and read our pick up artist analysis.
The Christmas Principle
I just watched a movie called the Expendables. You might have heard of it. Well this is not going to be a review of that movie but there was a line in it that I think applied to pick up very well. It was something along the lines of, "The man who has the least problems with women, is the man who needs them the least."
Now how might a pick up artist like myself interpret that statement. Some took it as you cant live with women so don't need them.
I took it a little differently. It works along the lines of showing disinterest and
"loving yourself". The basic principle you can draw from this is. If you can learn to be truly happy about yourself and your life. Then you will have very little issues with attracting women. Because this self reliance is something women find very attractive. Although this idea is far from new. I have never heard it stated as such. So I am here forth going to refer to it as the Christmas Principle. If you don't understand this you are just going to have to watch the movie.
I plan on exploring this idea a little further at a later point in time.
Now how might a pick up artist like myself interpret that statement. Some took it as you cant live with women so don't need them.
I took it a little differently. It works along the lines of showing disinterest and
"loving yourself". The basic principle you can draw from this is. If you can learn to be truly happy about yourself and your life. Then you will have very little issues with attracting women. Because this self reliance is something women find very attractive. Although this idea is far from new. I have never heard it stated as such. So I am here forth going to refer to it as the Christmas Principle. If you don't understand this you are just going to have to watch the movie.
I plan on exploring this idea a little further at a later point in time.
Tuesday, August 10, 2010
One of the best Hitch quotes
No women ever wakes up saying, "God I hope I DON'T get swept off my feet today."
Monday, August 9, 2010
PUA review #1: Wedding Crashers
There are multiple movies around with subjects akin to pick up. These movies can be very helpful to the aspiring pick up artist when they are discussed. A combination of modeling and contemplation of these films can help you with your game. So this is the first of many PUA reviews.
Last night Siren and I watched Wedding crashers from a completely different point of view than when it first came out. We watched it from the point of view of a pick up artist.
Wedding Crashers lead character portrayed by Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson are great examples of masterful Pick Up Artists. They are charming and wells spoken. This is proven by the fact they manage to go to weddings they are not invited to and no on cares or question there vague back stories.
There are a few things that we can learn from this movie.
One is to internalize a set of rules and follow them. Mystery talks about how practicing Pick Up calibrates you socially. You learn what can happen in you interactions and what to do when those things happen.
Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson have a plan set for everything. When a woman Vince Vaughn picked up at a previous wedding shows up at there latest wedding they fall into a set routine of how to handle this. (Not that this plan is theatrical and created for comedic purposes and is not something people should try the point is they have a plan)
Another thing you can take from this movie is to never lose you cool. Rules of pick up and being alpha male say don't let others effect your state. There is a scene where Vince Vaughn is making animal balloons for the children at the wedding when one child comes up demonstrates himself to be a royal pain. He demands, "I want a bicycle. MAKE ME A BICYCLE. DO IT CLOWN. SHUT UP FUNNY MAN." Vince Vaughn keeps his cool, even though he is not sure how to handle the situation. He realizes that the only way to handle it is to make the child a balloon bicycle. What you have to learn from this is the fact that he handled the obstacle of the child without compromising himself even though he probably desired to tell the child off. Put simply no matter the obstacle don't compromise yourself as yelling at a child would have done find a way around it. (Obviously another situation build for theatricality as making a balloon bicycle is not something you can reasonably do)
Another important thing is specifically stated by Vince Vaughn he says, "Don't sit in the corner and sulk it calls attention to you in a negative way. call attention to yourself but on your own terms." this is something that I think applies to pick up very accurately.
There are also many other things but I think these are the most obvious and somewhat important. I would love it if other people added to this PUA analysis of Wedding Crashers.
to summarize
WEDDING CRASHER RULES (In no particular order)
1. Plan for as much as you can and internalize those plans.
2. Don't compromise yourself for an obstacle
3. Call attention to yourself but on your own terms
Last night Siren and I watched Wedding crashers from a completely different point of view than when it first came out. We watched it from the point of view of a pick up artist.
Wedding Crashers lead character portrayed by Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson are great examples of masterful Pick Up Artists. They are charming and wells spoken. This is proven by the fact they manage to go to weddings they are not invited to and no on cares or question there vague back stories.
There are a few things that we can learn from this movie.
One is to internalize a set of rules and follow them. Mystery talks about how practicing Pick Up calibrates you socially. You learn what can happen in you interactions and what to do when those things happen.
Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson have a plan set for everything. When a woman Vince Vaughn picked up at a previous wedding shows up at there latest wedding they fall into a set routine of how to handle this. (Not that this plan is theatrical and created for comedic purposes and is not something people should try the point is they have a plan)
Another thing you can take from this movie is to never lose you cool. Rules of pick up and being alpha male say don't let others effect your state. There is a scene where Vince Vaughn is making animal balloons for the children at the wedding when one child comes up demonstrates himself to be a royal pain. He demands, "I want a bicycle. MAKE ME A BICYCLE. DO IT CLOWN. SHUT UP FUNNY MAN." Vince Vaughn keeps his cool, even though he is not sure how to handle the situation. He realizes that the only way to handle it is to make the child a balloon bicycle. What you have to learn from this is the fact that he handled the obstacle of the child without compromising himself even though he probably desired to tell the child off. Put simply no matter the obstacle don't compromise yourself as yelling at a child would have done find a way around it. (Obviously another situation build for theatricality as making a balloon bicycle is not something you can reasonably do)
Another important thing is specifically stated by Vince Vaughn he says, "Don't sit in the corner and sulk it calls attention to you in a negative way. call attention to yourself but on your own terms." this is something that I think applies to pick up very accurately.
There are also many other things but I think these are the most obvious and somewhat important. I would love it if other people added to this PUA analysis of Wedding Crashers.
to summarize
WEDDING CRASHER RULES (In no particular order)
1. Plan for as much as you can and internalize those plans.
2. Don't compromise yourself for an obstacle
3. Call attention to yourself but on your own terms
Sunday, August 8, 2010
One of the best wedding crasher quotes
Don't sit in the corner and sulk it draws attention to you in a negative way. Draw attention to yourself but on your own terms
Saturday, August 7, 2010
Discussing pick up with friends
The problem lots of people face when they do pick up are judgments based on what you are doing. Let’s face it some people are not willing to learn enough about the community to make an intelligent judgment about it. This discourages some people to drop out of the community. This is sad because even though there are some people out there who don’t understand there are a lot of people who do.
For example.
In a previous post I mentioned Siren my business partner. She also happens to be my best friend and ex girlfriend. She learned about pick up from me and thinks it is an amazing thing. She thinks it is something that most men need. She finds the topic intriguing enough she helps me teach it.
(The interesting point about Siren is that she is the most serious relationship I have ever had. I found her completely intriguing because everything I understood about women and pick up did not apply to her in the typical sense. She is extremely attractive yet the normal things you would do to pick up a woman like her did not work. That intrigued me; it just made her more fascinating to me. And the point is Siren and I have had long discussions about it and are trying to figure out why. We have lots of theories and we teach plan on teaching what we figure out in the class. The point is Siren in interested enough in pickup she is helping to figure out how to pickup girls like her. Funny Huh?)
My own mother knows about pick up and she thinks it is a great thing. She knows I teach it to other men. She even encourages me teaching the basics to my thirteen year old brother who is almost in high school. He is a good looking guy into sports. Has all the little girls crushing on him. But he is too shy. I’m trying to teach him how to effectively use pick up to communicate with the opposite sex. To be confident and secure with himself.
Multiple friends of mine who did not know what pick up was when we first started our friendships snow know and encourage what I do. I love it. I love that I can tell my friends about the community. I love that I can talk about it.
I used to keep to myself about it. I used to think that it was something that people would think less of me for doing. The people closest to me have supported it. And while some people think it’s a bad thing and I think its unfortunate I don’t let it bother me anymore because this is who I am. Pickup is more than just a way to improve your romantic life. It’s a way to live and hiding that is hiding who you are.
Obviously this advice is to be used within the methods of pickup. While it is possible to tell someone that you are a dating instructor, coach, or someone who is interested in pick up and still use pick up on them it is not something that I recommend for the beginner.
For example.
In a previous post I mentioned Siren my business partner. She also happens to be my best friend and ex girlfriend. She learned about pick up from me and thinks it is an amazing thing. She thinks it is something that most men need. She finds the topic intriguing enough she helps me teach it.
(The interesting point about Siren is that she is the most serious relationship I have ever had. I found her completely intriguing because everything I understood about women and pick up did not apply to her in the typical sense. She is extremely attractive yet the normal things you would do to pick up a woman like her did not work. That intrigued me; it just made her more fascinating to me. And the point is Siren and I have had long discussions about it and are trying to figure out why. We have lots of theories and we teach plan on teaching what we figure out in the class. The point is Siren in interested enough in pickup she is helping to figure out how to pickup girls like her. Funny Huh?)
My own mother knows about pick up and she thinks it is a great thing. She knows I teach it to other men. She even encourages me teaching the basics to my thirteen year old brother who is almost in high school. He is a good looking guy into sports. Has all the little girls crushing on him. But he is too shy. I’m trying to teach him how to effectively use pick up to communicate with the opposite sex. To be confident and secure with himself.
Multiple friends of mine who did not know what pick up was when we first started our friendships snow know and encourage what I do. I love it. I love that I can tell my friends about the community. I love that I can talk about it.
I used to keep to myself about it. I used to think that it was something that people would think less of me for doing. The people closest to me have supported it. And while some people think it’s a bad thing and I think its unfortunate I don’t let it bother me anymore because this is who I am. Pickup is more than just a way to improve your romantic life. It’s a way to live and hiding that is hiding who you are.
Obviously this advice is to be used within the methods of pickup. While it is possible to tell someone that you are a dating instructor, coach, or someone who is interested in pick up and still use pick up on them it is not something that I recommend for the beginner.
Wednesday, August 4, 2010
You don't have to be mainstream but be aware of the mainstream
Hey guys,
Extra tip for the day.
The title pretty much says it all. I do not at all promote being an average Joe or a mainstream guy. But be aware of the mainstream. You don't have to like popular music but be aware or you will just look socially awkward and lose points with the target. Be a man of the world, familiar with as many types of music and other mainstream things as possible.
This came about because a student who listens to country music just knew country music. He was not well rounded at all. He knew about what he liked and that was it.
It is attractive and alpha to be that man of the world that I mentioned earlier.
NOW DON'T PRETEND TO LIKE SOMETHING YOU DON'T. But be familiar with it and have an opinion on it.
And I am not saying you need to be familiar with EVERY piece of music and EVERY artist out there at the moment but if you don't know who say Hannah Montana is your going to just look like a shmuck. So How do we fix this problem?
Thanks to the internet this is easily done. You can easily listen to previews of the top music or preview TV shows. Etc.
I know I said it all ready but its important. Be familiar AND HAVE AN OPINION.
Richard Heart
Extra tip for the day.
The title pretty much says it all. I do not at all promote being an average Joe or a mainstream guy. But be aware of the mainstream. You don't have to like popular music but be aware or you will just look socially awkward and lose points with the target. Be a man of the world, familiar with as many types of music and other mainstream things as possible.
This came about because a student who listens to country music just knew country music. He was not well rounded at all. He knew about what he liked and that was it.
It is attractive and alpha to be that man of the world that I mentioned earlier.
NOW DON'T PRETEND TO LIKE SOMETHING YOU DON'T. But be familiar with it and have an opinion on it.
And I am not saying you need to be familiar with EVERY piece of music and EVERY artist out there at the moment but if you don't know who say Hannah Montana is your going to just look like a shmuck. So How do we fix this problem?
Thanks to the internet this is easily done. You can easily listen to previews of the top music or preview TV shows. Etc.
I know I said it all ready but its important. Be familiar AND HAVE AN OPINION.
Richard Heart
A Pick Up artists guide to San Francisco
As a pickup artist I like to try and find locations that are target rich that I can either 1 go to for fun or to go there to practice pickup.
In my opinion a really important key to pickup is knowing your city. So all of you in San Francisco are ion luck I am going to share some of my favorite places to go and practice what I do.
We will start Simple.
In San Francisco there are small cramped coffee shops everywhere. I know a lot of day game notes tell you coffee shops are the way to go. But I would like to add this to the collection of knowledge saying the bigger the coffee shop the better.
My roommate and I were at a star bucks on Powell and Sutter. It was packed and it had barely twenty people in it. The crowded coffee shop produces a hurried stressful atmosphere. The coffee shop chosen to pick up in needs to be a little on the bigger side. Avoid the cramped small star bucks located on almost every other corner of SF. While some are appropriately sized they are for the most part too damn small. The one on Powell and Sutter is by far and away the worst I have ever seen. Some coffee shops that are good for pickup is the Coffee shop in the borders on Powell near union square. It is large has a nice relaxed atmosphere.
There are two star bucks I know of down on market street that have quite favorable atmospheres. I just want to state that I am not bashing star bucks all together I am just saying that they have a tendency to shove a shop anywhere.
The Westfield shopping center is an amazing location. They have fantastic seating areas where people go to rest that are fantastic for starting up conversations with women. The possibilities here are almost endless. I highly recommend below the dome around lunch time from Thursday through Saturday. Even outside of pickup the Westfield mall is just a tremendously wonderful sight to see.
The metreon Which is in walking distance from the mall is absolutely chock full of opportunities for the aspiring pick up artist. The arcade is a lot of fun to take dates and meet people there. There are groups of college kids going there for just kicks that you can meet.
There are a few really good restaurants on the ground floor. I recommend Buckhorn Grill. Not for any other reason than the food is delicious.
The yerba buena gardens outside is one of the most geourgeous parks in san francisco. It has a waterfall wonderful cityscape veiws. A childrens playground, an ice skating rink a bowling ally.
All in all the Metreon and yerba Buena Gardens is a great place to take dates because of all of the variety.
Panera’s On fourth street is right across from the china basin which holds UCSF classes. It is a common place for students to go for lunch.
Ill continue this topic in other posts and if you have any to add feel free this is only the begining of what I hope to be a regular thread. In my next post of this topic we will discuss more of the uncommon places and events in the city.
Richard Heart
In my opinion a really important key to pickup is knowing your city. So all of you in San Francisco are ion luck I am going to share some of my favorite places to go and practice what I do.
We will start Simple.
In San Francisco there are small cramped coffee shops everywhere. I know a lot of day game notes tell you coffee shops are the way to go. But I would like to add this to the collection of knowledge saying the bigger the coffee shop the better.
My roommate and I were at a star bucks on Powell and Sutter. It was packed and it had barely twenty people in it. The crowded coffee shop produces a hurried stressful atmosphere. The coffee shop chosen to pick up in needs to be a little on the bigger side. Avoid the cramped small star bucks located on almost every other corner of SF. While some are appropriately sized they are for the most part too damn small. The one on Powell and Sutter is by far and away the worst I have ever seen. Some coffee shops that are good for pickup is the Coffee shop in the borders on Powell near union square. It is large has a nice relaxed atmosphere.
There are two star bucks I know of down on market street that have quite favorable atmospheres. I just want to state that I am not bashing star bucks all together I am just saying that they have a tendency to shove a shop anywhere.
The Westfield shopping center is an amazing location. They have fantastic seating areas where people go to rest that are fantastic for starting up conversations with women. The possibilities here are almost endless. I highly recommend below the dome around lunch time from Thursday through Saturday. Even outside of pickup the Westfield mall is just a tremendously wonderful sight to see.
The metreon Which is in walking distance from the mall is absolutely chock full of opportunities for the aspiring pick up artist. The arcade is a lot of fun to take dates and meet people there. There are groups of college kids going there for just kicks that you can meet.
There are a few really good restaurants on the ground floor. I recommend Buckhorn Grill. Not for any other reason than the food is delicious.
The yerba buena gardens outside is one of the most geourgeous parks in san francisco. It has a waterfall wonderful cityscape veiws. A childrens playground, an ice skating rink a bowling ally.
All in all the Metreon and yerba Buena Gardens is a great place to take dates because of all of the variety.
Panera’s On fourth street is right across from the china basin which holds UCSF classes. It is a common place for students to go for lunch.
Ill continue this topic in other posts and if you have any to add feel free this is only the begining of what I hope to be a regular thread. In my next post of this topic we will discuss more of the uncommon places and events in the city.
Richard Heart
Monday, August 2, 2010
Introduction
Hey guys, my name is Richard Heart.
Let’s keep this introduction brief so we can get to the truly fun stuff.
I am a man with a lot of interests and a few specific Passions. That is what this blog is going to be about. Mainly focusing on my two passions of Magic and the Pick up Arts.
These two things in my mind have a lot in common and learning one can absolutely help with the other.
My business partner is a beautiful woman who goes by the appropriate name of Siren. We started up Social Lubricant together and we teach a select clientele of men and women from all over San Francisco Pick up and different social psychology techniques to give them the romantic life they want and the social life they deserve.
I also perform around the city, Private parties and restaurants mostly; my specialties are close up sleight of hand magic and psychological illusions.
This blog is not meant to advertise for my Businesses but to share ideas and opinions with both the magic and the pick up community. I would love it if because of my blog Magicians got interested in pick up or Pick up artists became more interested in magic and learned to use it as more than just a gimmick.
Richard Heart
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