The key to dealing with a tense situation and come out smelling like a rose is very simple. Always be calmer than everyone else. This is an everyday truth that can be applied to any and all situations. From the extreme to the simple.
Think of all the action movies you have seen. How do you know which one is the hero. Which one is the super attractive man that all the women are fawning over. Its the one who is calmly and quietly assessing the situation to find a way out.
So when the shit hits the fan always be calmer than everyone else in the room.
This also brings to mind another need to know principle:
ITS NOT WHAT HAPPENS ITS HOW YOU REACT TO WHAT HAPPENS
A date can go horribly horribly wrong but still end up being the best date a woman has ever been on depending on the way a man reacts. Look at the scene in hitch where he accidentally kicks her in the face on a date yet afterwords she still bragging to her friend about how awesome the date was. This is a perfect example.
So think about these things. I know I was.
RICHARD HEART
Saturday, November 13, 2010
Thursday, November 4, 2010
Proximity IOI's/Bus stop game
Definition:
A woman getting into the proximity were an approach is possible even though she could be somewhere else. This is a proximity IOI. She is subconsciously saying approach me. Hell she is screaming it.
Today I was out practicing day game and went to one of my favorite spots. I was waiting at my school's bus stop. Two very attractive island girls walked up and sat next to me. There was plenty of room on other benches. They had other places they could go. This IS AN IOI.
When a girl gives you this kind of blatant IOI they will open succesfully 99.9 % of the time.
Now obviously a girl on a bus who is being forcibly jammed against you is not giving you an IOI and more than likely is uncomfortable by the close contact.
Let me tell you what happened today.
These two girls sat down right next to me, so I opened. I did not think I opened. I asked them when the next bus was coming. This is the easiest and most fool proof opener I have found for a bus stop situation. It gets the Conversation started easily. The girls looked at me, smiled and laughed saying they didnt know. Smile and laughter, these are IOI's.
Lesson here
IF YOU ARE GIVEN BLATANT PROXIMITY IOI's OPEN
Don't overthink it. You are already getting and IOI so Open.
RICHARD HEART
A woman getting into the proximity were an approach is possible even though she could be somewhere else. This is a proximity IOI. She is subconsciously saying approach me. Hell she is screaming it.
Today I was out practicing day game and went to one of my favorite spots. I was waiting at my school's bus stop. Two very attractive island girls walked up and sat next to me. There was plenty of room on other benches. They had other places they could go. This IS AN IOI.
When a girl gives you this kind of blatant IOI they will open succesfully 99.9 % of the time.
Now obviously a girl on a bus who is being forcibly jammed against you is not giving you an IOI and more than likely is uncomfortable by the close contact.
Let me tell you what happened today.
These two girls sat down right next to me, so I opened. I did not think I opened. I asked them when the next bus was coming. This is the easiest and most fool proof opener I have found for a bus stop situation. It gets the Conversation started easily. The girls looked at me, smiled and laughed saying they didnt know. Smile and laughter, these are IOI's.
Lesson here
IF YOU ARE GIVEN BLATANT PROXIMITY IOI's OPEN
Don't overthink it. You are already getting and IOI so Open.
RICHARD HEART
Monday, October 25, 2010
Alpha Male Behavior (How do we learn it)
Learning alpha male behavior.
Its a difficult thing to pin down. One of the easiest and fastest ways I have found to learn is threw modeling characters from telivision and film. I know it sounds weird but I am a big motivator for learning alpha male behavior this way. Im a big proprietor of character modeling for multiple things but this to me is probably the most important.
How does this work? Easy but it takes some thought. What characters can you think of that exemplify alpha male behavior to you. Got one? good. Now you go and watch them. repeatedly. Look at the way they act the things they do. What makes them Alpha. They're body language? the way the talk? the things they say and do?
The answer is yes. All of the above.
This is the introduction to a new section of the blog called the Alpha male Reports. I'm gonna take some of my favorite characters and give you an Idea what you can take from studying them. but until then take a look at some of these characters and see what you come up with on your own.
1. BONES- Watch Booth. Quintesential Alpha Male behavior from one of the best examples
2. GHOSTS OF GIRLFRIENDS PAST- JUST WATCH IT
3. THE UGLY TRUTH- Gerard Butlers main character is crazy good
4. SUPERNATURAL- All the girls seem to drool over sam and dean. little hint. look at the body language here. Phenomenal Alpha male examples.
I think that should be good for now.
RICHARD HEART
Its a difficult thing to pin down. One of the easiest and fastest ways I have found to learn is threw modeling characters from telivision and film. I know it sounds weird but I am a big motivator for learning alpha male behavior this way. Im a big proprietor of character modeling for multiple things but this to me is probably the most important.
How does this work? Easy but it takes some thought. What characters can you think of that exemplify alpha male behavior to you. Got one? good. Now you go and watch them. repeatedly. Look at the way they act the things they do. What makes them Alpha. They're body language? the way the talk? the things they say and do?
The answer is yes. All of the above.
This is the introduction to a new section of the blog called the Alpha male Reports. I'm gonna take some of my favorite characters and give you an Idea what you can take from studying them. but until then take a look at some of these characters and see what you come up with on your own.
1. BONES- Watch Booth. Quintesential Alpha Male behavior from one of the best examples
2. GHOSTS OF GIRLFRIENDS PAST- JUST WATCH IT
3. THE UGLY TRUTH- Gerard Butlers main character is crazy good
4. SUPERNATURAL- All the girls seem to drool over sam and dean. little hint. look at the body language here. Phenomenal Alpha male examples.
I think that should be good for now.
RICHARD HEART
Monday, October 18, 2010
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Thursday, October 14, 2010
Just one of the boys
As pick up artists we are all aware of how many different kind of women there are in the world. To list them all would take a lifetime, we are here to discuss just one type.
The female athlete, one of the boys. Which is the exact problem. They don't necessarily have to be an athlete just one of the boys. We have all seen them, we have all grew up with them. The girl who hangs out with all the boys.
This girl feels more comfortable considering herself one of the guys, she doesn't really understand her own gender. Don't ask this girl for advice about girls she will usually just laugh or get uncomfortable. These girls hardly ever were skirts or dresses and when they do they are visibly uncomfortable. All the AFC's crush on this girl because she appears in reach. She is just like them. But that couldn't be farther from the truth. Because what these guys cant seem to wrap there head around is no matter how simmilar to them they are you need to treat them like girls.
Let me lay this scenario out for you. Three guys one girl. They are friends for years. Then in highschool one of the boys starts to crush on said girl. Aside from flirting and acting uncomfortable he still treats her the same he treats her the way he has always treated her. Like one of the guys.
Are you starting to see where I'm going with this.
Let me lay out one more scenario before I tell you the two ways to get this girl.
Same three guys and one girl. This time quarterback of the football team starts to take a liking to the girl. And she to him. They end up getting together.
Now tell me why does this second guy get the girl and the first guy doesn't.
Its simple and they're are two reasons.
They need to be treated like girls. They are so much more alpha than most of there female friends that they need to be reminded they are girls. The football player does this. he is so much more alpha than her that she feels like a girl when she is around him. And she starts to act like it. The football player haven't not had her as one of the guys. Treats her like a girl. WHICH IS WHAT IS NECESSARY.
Simply put.
The focus needs to be on
1. Out alpha male'ing her
2. Treat her like a girl
Tonight I am having dinner with a female friend who is just like this. she recently got into a relationship and im meeting the man for the first time. Ill tell you guys there story in the next post.
Happy Gaming
RICHARD HEART
The female athlete, one of the boys. Which is the exact problem. They don't necessarily have to be an athlete just one of the boys. We have all seen them, we have all grew up with them. The girl who hangs out with all the boys.
This girl feels more comfortable considering herself one of the guys, she doesn't really understand her own gender. Don't ask this girl for advice about girls she will usually just laugh or get uncomfortable. These girls hardly ever were skirts or dresses and when they do they are visibly uncomfortable. All the AFC's crush on this girl because she appears in reach. She is just like them. But that couldn't be farther from the truth. Because what these guys cant seem to wrap there head around is no matter how simmilar to them they are you need to treat them like girls.
Let me lay this scenario out for you. Three guys one girl. They are friends for years. Then in highschool one of the boys starts to crush on said girl. Aside from flirting and acting uncomfortable he still treats her the same he treats her the way he has always treated her. Like one of the guys.
Are you starting to see where I'm going with this.
Let me lay out one more scenario before I tell you the two ways to get this girl.
Same three guys and one girl. This time quarterback of the football team starts to take a liking to the girl. And she to him. They end up getting together.
Now tell me why does this second guy get the girl and the first guy doesn't.
Its simple and they're are two reasons.
They need to be treated like girls. They are so much more alpha than most of there female friends that they need to be reminded they are girls. The football player does this. he is so much more alpha than her that she feels like a girl when she is around him. And she starts to act like it. The football player haven't not had her as one of the guys. Treats her like a girl. WHICH IS WHAT IS NECESSARY.
Simply put.
The focus needs to be on
1. Out alpha male'ing her
2. Treat her like a girl
Tonight I am having dinner with a female friend who is just like this. she recently got into a relationship and im meeting the man for the first time. Ill tell you guys there story in the next post.
Happy Gaming
RICHARD HEART
Monday, October 11, 2010
Delivery Practice
New students of mine are constantly trying to practice there openers any way possible. But nothing beats real world practice. Only problem there is how to practice because most beginners have approach anxiety and cannot seem to just approach girls for the sake of practice. So approach anxiety and fear of rejection keep you from approaching.
What if you could approach new girls to practice openers and get the delivery practice you need?
Well its not an if there is a way.
Hired Guns.
I know that most people tell beginners to stay away from hired guns. I encourage it. Think about. You can run an entire opener on them in a store without fear of rejection.
No I'm not saying to pick up these hired guns. I'm saying practice your openers.
KEYWORD: PRACTICE!!!
Treat it as such.
My recommendation for a newbie mission:
Gather your openers and go to the mall. Go into any store and open up the salespeople. Make it situation relevant though as you would with any set. You cant just jump up to a salesclerk and ask her opinion on whether you should bleach your hair blond or about your friends jealous girlfriend. But it would make sense if you asked her opinion on what to buy, whether this looks good on you, or whether there is a Starbucks nearby.
Practice flirting just for the sake of flirting.
This will help you practice your delivery, and develop the attitude of being nonreactive and progressively you will move from salespeople to the customers in the mall and you wont even notice.
this is my theory of REJECTION PROOF PRACTICE
What if you could approach new girls to practice openers and get the delivery practice you need?
Well its not an if there is a way.
Hired Guns.
I know that most people tell beginners to stay away from hired guns. I encourage it. Think about. You can run an entire opener on them in a store without fear of rejection.
No I'm not saying to pick up these hired guns. I'm saying practice your openers.
KEYWORD: PRACTICE!!!
Treat it as such.
My recommendation for a newbie mission:
Gather your openers and go to the mall. Go into any store and open up the salespeople. Make it situation relevant though as you would with any set. You cant just jump up to a salesclerk and ask her opinion on whether you should bleach your hair blond or about your friends jealous girlfriend. But it would make sense if you asked her opinion on what to buy, whether this looks good on you, or whether there is a Starbucks nearby.
Practice flirting just for the sake of flirting.
This will help you practice your delivery, and develop the attitude of being nonreactive and progressively you will move from salespeople to the customers in the mall and you wont even notice.
this is my theory of REJECTION PROOF PRACTICE
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