PUA review #1: Wedding Crashers

There are multiple movies around with subjects akin to pick up. These movies can be very helpful to the aspiring pick up artist when they are discussed. A combination of modeling and contemplation of these films can help you with your game. So this is the first of many PUA reviews.

Last night Siren and I watched Wedding crashers from a completely different point of view than when it first came out. We watched it from the point of view of a pick up artist.
Wedding Crashers lead character portrayed by Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson are great examples of masterful Pick Up Artists. They are charming and wells spoken. This is proven by the fact they manage to go to weddings they are not invited to and no on cares or question there vague back stories.
There are a few things that we can learn from this movie.
One is to internalize a set of rules and follow them. Mystery talks about how practicing Pick Up calibrates you socially. You learn what can happen in you interactions and what to do when those things happen.
Vince Vaughn and Owen Wilson have a plan set for everything. When a woman Vince Vaughn picked up at a previous wedding shows up at there latest wedding they fall into a set routine of how to handle this. (Not that this plan is theatrical and created for comedic purposes and is not something people should try the point is they have a plan)
Another thing you can take from this movie is to never lose you cool. Rules of pick up and being alpha male say don't let others effect your state. There is a scene where Vince Vaughn is making animal balloons for the children at the wedding when one child comes up demonstrates himself to be a royal pain. He demands, "I want a bicycle. MAKE ME A BICYCLE. DO IT CLOWN. SHUT UP FUNNY MAN." Vince Vaughn keeps his cool, even though he is not sure how to handle the situation. He realizes that the only way to handle it is to make the child a balloon bicycle. What you have to learn from this is the fact that he handled the obstacle of the child without compromising himself even though he probably desired to tell the child off. Put simply no matter the obstacle don't compromise yourself as yelling at a child would have done find a way around it. (Obviously another situation build for theatricality as making a balloon bicycle is not something you can reasonably do)
Another important thing is specifically stated by Vince Vaughn he says, "Don't sit in the corner and sulk it calls attention to you in a negative way. call attention to yourself but on your own terms." this is something that I think applies to pick up very accurately.
There are also many other things but I think these are the most obvious and somewhat important. I would love it if other people added to this PUA analysis of Wedding Crashers.
to summarize
WEDDING CRASHER RULES (In no particular order)

1. Plan for as much as you can and internalize those plans.
2. Don't compromise yourself for an obstacle
3. Call attention to yourself but on your own terms

Discussing pick up with friends

The problem lots of people face when they do pick up are judgments based on what you are doing. Let’s face it some people are not willing to learn enough about the community to make an intelligent judgment about it. This discourages some people to drop out of the community. This is sad because even though there are some people out there who don’t understand there are a lot of people who do.
For example.
In a previous post I mentioned Siren my business partner. She also happens to be my best friend and ex girlfriend. She learned about pick up from me and thinks it is an amazing thing. She thinks it is something that most men need. She finds the topic intriguing enough she helps me teach it.
(The interesting point about Siren is that she is the most serious relationship I have ever had. I found her completely intriguing because everything I understood about women and pick up did not apply to her in the typical sense. She is extremely attractive yet the normal things you would do to pick up a woman like her did not work. That intrigued me; it just made her more fascinating to me. And the point is Siren and I have had long discussions about it and are trying to figure out why. We have lots of theories and we teach plan on teaching what we figure out in the class. The point is Siren in interested enough in pickup she is helping to figure out how to pickup girls like her. Funny Huh?)
My own mother knows about pick up and she thinks it is a great thing. She knows I teach it to other men. She even encourages me teaching the basics to my thirteen year old brother who is almost in high school. He is a good looking guy into sports. Has all the little girls crushing on him. But he is too shy. I’m trying to teach him how to effectively use pick up to communicate with the opposite sex. To be confident and secure with himself.
Multiple friends of mine who did not know what pick up was when we first started our friendships snow know and encourage what I do. I love it. I love that I can tell my friends about the community. I love that I can talk about it.
I used to keep to myself about it. I used to think that it was something that people would think less of me for doing. The people closest to me have supported it. And while some people think it’s a bad thing and I think its unfortunate I don’t let it bother me anymore because this is who I am. Pickup is more than just a way to improve your romantic life. It’s a way to live and hiding that is hiding who you are.
Obviously this advice is to be used within the methods of pickup. While it is possible to tell someone that you are a dating instructor, coach, or someone who is interested in pick up and still use pick up on them it is not something that I recommend for the beginner.